- Are you able to take the praises gracefully?
- Are you into constant habit of ‘self-pity’ or being in the question zone of ‘why me’?
- When in a group, do you deliberately criticize yourself and feel upset when others nod in agreement?
- Do you socially make fun of your own habits/ personality traits, life or behavior?
- Do you emotionally feel secure on receiving unessential sympathy from others?
- Does your self-worth vary or depend on how people rate you?
- Do you feel over-shyness when treated special for the deserving reasons?
- Do you treat yourself as either judge or victim in almost every situation of life?
- Do you knowingly allow yourself to be vulnerable because you presume that is the best way to remain socially acceptable?
- Do you find yourself over-compromising on your values irrespective of whether the same is demanded or not from you?
- Make sure that your ‘self-talk’ is consistently positive.
- Become a self- motivator and not destructor.
- Enjoy feeling proud about your achievements and strengths.
- Empower yourself in the known weak areas.
- Develop the habit of cross-checking the criticism you get with the people closely connected to you.
- Refrain from encouraging self-pity any further. The fact that you have reached at this stage of life, auto-proves that you are capable of:
- Every Sunday night, grab 15 minutes for self-analysis and go through this checklist every time.
- Keep a constant check on your thoughts, self-perception, behavior and self-attitude. Pledge, none of these should be allowed to harm you any further.
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| Shweta Nagpurkar Saxena,Clinical Psychologist/ Australian Accredited Trainer/ Writer |
Humans are the creator of their own life. We and only we can make or break our self-esteem. Many Psychological researches/ surveys have shown that people tend to impede their own self-esteem and continue to live with this mental conditioning.
Needless to say, world will treat you as you treat yourself. Thus, it becomes very crucial that you build-up a strong and positive self-esteem. Also, need to respect your efforts poured in mushrooming it.
Here is a questionnaire to help you introspect and understand the way you treat your self-esteem:
If you answer is ‘yes’ to the 5 or more questions, you have a lot of work to do on your self-esteem.
Self-esteem is what you create and maintain in order to develop and succeed in life. It is your self-image and self-worth. Parenting and childhood conditioning has a major role to play in it. One’s values, norms, religious teachings and learning also contributes to a great extent. And thereby, the result of this self-esteem in seen in one’s attitude, behavior, thinking, personality, emotional balancing and perception towards self and others.
Here are few vital tips to enhance your self-esteem:
i. Strongly handle yourself.
ii. Accept challenges and overcome.
iii. Move on if and when needed.
Magic happens in over-night only in fantasies. However, to make them happen in reality, consistent efforts and faith in self is required.
So, Readers, celebrate the birth of a new self-esteem!
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