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| Shweta Nagpurkar Saxena,Clinical Psychologist/ Australian Accredited Trainer/ Writer |
Well, I would say 50% of your desired work is already done because you have chosen to read on with a Positive mindset.
40: Phase of taking a break
1. ‘This’ is the time when your life, body, mind, social roles and at times relationships demand a break.
2. It happens to everyone so push off the thought “Why Me?”
3. Rather than terming it as ‘emptiness’ try terming it Positively as ‘My Space’
4. Several people spend their pre-40 years in repenting/ suppressing/ feeling guilty that they hardly got time or enough opportunities to live for themselves. Fair enough……so what about post-40 years? Are you prepared? Have you planned? Or have you sub-consciously already started your after-40 life with similar pessimistic emotions?
5. Here begins the time when your children are busy with their own pre-40s and may be your spouse too is preparing himself/ herself to face the ‘My Space’. Thus, moving on with this reality is the best sensible thing you could and should do. Isn’t it?
6. ‘Moving On’ has various parameters. Most commonly it means accepting the reality and preparing yourself for its absence in your future life.
7. ‘The things you can’t avoid accept it’ …….high time to master this saying. We surely can’t avoid the changes happening in our life and around us, so why not step up and accept it gracefully? Can We?
8. ‘Empty-Nest Syndrome’ is the mental state which can be dealt with, thus, choose not to continue to experience it.
9. Humans often try to see and thereby live their incomplete dreams in their children. But won’t it be more beautiful and fair to try to complete those incompletion by You, for You and within You?
10. ‘My Space’ is simply living moments for yourself. Late is better than never, if not before, let us start ‘At 40’.
11. Let things happen to/ for you by Your choice. Only that will give you the responsibility to be happy for it.
12. Make sure that you are well aware of how much time is enough for you to spend in your own company. Because if you exceed it that will result in the loneliness, sadness again leaving you emotionally vulnerable and insecure.
13. Make a list of the people who need you in some or the other way. Now that you have time, try and attend them.
14. Catch-up with your old friends, social networks/ clubs mates, ex-workmates.
15. Donate your time, knowledge, experience for some social cause/ NGOs. Giving a helping hand will give you even more strength and fill in the ‘feel good’ factor in you.
16. Come out of your comfort zone. The fact that you are uncomfortable and anxious in that zone itself means it isn’t the presumed comfort zone anymore. So, try and create a new one.
17. Cultivate your hobbies. Join or teach classes related to your hobbies.
18. Do a make-over of your personality, your hair, dressing and grooming styles. This again will push more Oxygen in you.
19. Take care of your Physical and Mental Health. Do regular exercises, Yoga, eat and sleep well. Join fitness and laughter clubs.
20. Develop positive Self-Talk.
21. Respect and love the journey of your life. Because if you will not, nobody will.
22. As per Hinduism, Vanprasthashram starts after 50, however preaches the similar philosophy of leading one’s life. You would want to choose the path of spiritual growth and thereby find the peace and evolve even more.
23. Meet and be around Positive people in your life and often do things that end up putting a smile on your face.
24. Life proceeds and so must You! Embrace this change, accept it comes with little hurdles, help empowering other ‘People At 40’ in discovering themselves and at the end of the day I am sure you will look at the mirror and say, “I am happy I am 40”.
Remember to celebrate life as if that is the only option you have!!!
Thank You!
Shweta Nagpurkar Saxena.
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